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Have a great day and remember not to sweat the small stuff!
Live, Laugh and Love,
Dee
A new chapter to my life!

Last night was a late night for me as I talked to one of my best friends on the phone for about 2 hours then followed it up with watching MSNB’s Lock up! It is a show about people in prison and early this morning they featured a woman’s prison just south of Raleigh North Carolina. A lot of interesting stories of how these women got there and also the recent statistics of the number of women in prison doubling!
I am amazed at how many are there because of domestic abuse and defending themselves. You would think that in this time and age we are in, there would be more help for those women to leave that situation before it got to that point!
I know more about abuse and walking away and how hard it is than I care to know. When I did there was not the support system out there for me. If you know of any women who are in that situation and need to see there is life out there without their abuser please point them in my direction! I will talk to them and let them know it can be done! Life is too short to live in worry of when the next punch is going to come or believe that ‘that’s just the way it has to be’!
So the next time you look the other way because you don’t want to get involved know it only takes one voice to help someone begin a life without violence! No child should have to see the abuse or woman has to stay in that situation!
I have been out of work since Oct. 22nd 2008 and I fine myself amazed by the reactions I get when asked “how are you doing?”
Hey, life is too short to sit and dwell on the little things in life that might get you down. The facial expressions when they ask this question look to me like “oh I’m sorry for your loss” like someone close to me as died! I find it really incredible too that so many people can bitch about how they hate their job and how they want to quit.
Okay, first of all, you should be very grateful that you have a job and be careful what you are putting out there. The universe has a way of making your wish come true!
I don’t know what God has in store for me but I’m sure there is a door open some where, which I just haven’t found yet! You know the sayings “God won’t give you more than you can handle” or “When God closes one door he opens another” or “Everything happens for a reason”. All of these are things I live by. Just because I don’t have a full time job right now doesn’t mean I can’t be happy with what has been handed to me!
I’m not one to preach about life and force feed God on anyone but in my eyes he’s still providing a roof over my head, food on my table and I have my health! I can’t say all the bills are getting paid on time but they are getting paid! So I wanted to share with you these thoughts and this:
When you feel that your life sucks so bad that you need to complain about it all the time then understand we attract what we project! I love to be around positive people and thru all I’ve gone thru over the past few months I keep my chin up and my eyes open! I continue to grow as a person, woman and friend to those close to me. They often tell me “I’m amazed at how you continue to keep such a positive look on your situation” Well, I say to you: Why would I want to pull my own self down by fretting over something I have no control over! And if you are a person who has a job, appreciate what you do have! Sure if you have hopes and dreams of moving on from your current position to work somewhere else then do it and don’t complain. Again, the universe works in mysterious ways and complaining, just a little bit too much, can cause things to happen that you really didn’t want to happen to begin with. “Misery loves company” that is one I never knew existed until about 10 years ago when I was wondering why I kept asking myself “what can happen next”. When you ask questions like that you’ll find out more than you really wanted to know!
So the next time you see someone like me, an unemployed person on the street, don’t treat us as if someone has died! Don’t feel sorry for us! Life will continue to go on…
The sun will rise and set,
On that you can bet,
There will be good days with the bad,
And you’ll reflect on what you had,
Treat others as you would want of yourself,
And most of all deal with the cards you’re dealt,
Pick yourself up and brush yourself off now,
You’ll be on top again some way and some how,
Take yourself to your happy place,
And most of all keep a smile on your face!
(Dee Stevens 2/10/2009)

To Negative “Nelly’s and Ned’s”
I’ve watched and read the exchanges back and forth now since I was let go back in October. Not only have I bit my tongue and smashed my fingers not to comment on this board I have searched this site and others for a J.O.B.
I find more and more people are asking for Free services in their talent search. I have always brought more than being a jock to the table. I’ve increased the numbers anywhere I have gone by just being myself.
Believe me, I thought long and hard before posting on this board because I find that many, not all, have a habit of ‘blowing smoke” when it comes to how much they know about the average ‘Joe’ or in my case the average ‘Jane’ who has been let go. When it comes to cuts, it really doesn’t matter about your numbers, or your talent. The ‘suites’ are all about going with the numbers of the bottom line. Please don’t take this as a bashing of what they (the suites) have done in the economy we are in right now. They are doing what they think is the right thing to do. I have a prediction myself and that is Radio as we know it will be changing over the next 6 months! To those who find yourself in the same position as I am of being unemployed, know that you are not alone and as long as you have a passion for the business, it will return to the way it was before all the corporate mass buying happened. If you are discouraged and want to leave the business then do what you must do to survivor! It is the few that post on this board who think they know it all which this next statement is for:
Find the rock which you crawled out of and please return! There are several of us who truly have a passion beyond words for the business we are in, or in my case currently out but looking to return. Think back to the real reason you got into radio… now if it was a reason like getting a ‘piece’ or becoming ‘popular’ then I’m not talking to you. But if it was to make a difference in someone’s life or in the community, hell maybe even the world! Then you are the ones who have lasted all these years because of that passion! There are several ‘Golden Rules’ I’ve lived by in all these years and they are: “Treat others like you want to be treated”, “Respect others the way you want to be Respected” “Share ideas with your co-worker to improve the team” and “Karma always has a way of showing you what you’ve done right or wrong”.
To those still looking for your next gig… Good luck and keep a positive outlook on life! May you get what you want out of life and be blessed along the way.
To the people who only have negative things to say… May you also get what you want out of life and be blessed along the way.
Live, Laugh and Love,
Dee Stevens